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Could you kill your inner cynic?

A couple of weeks ago I attended a networking event. The keynotes speaker was a macho captain of industry. One statement he made stuck in my mind, namely: “You have to kill your inner cynic, in order to achieve great things.”

He was, of course, speaking specifically about an attitude to success and achievement, and he was using the aggressive language of the corporate battlefield. Still, I believe he was spot on.

Put simply, all of us have at least one inner cynic. That’s the voice that says you will never be good enough, or lovable enough, or clever enough or…

Your abusive partner may well not have been the first person to say those things, but he is most likely the person who has carved them on your heart and your spirit.

Let’s face it, we start with a strong sense of fatalism about the wounds that have been inflicted on us. We believe – and society more or less tells us – that the damage is irreparable.

The truth is the damage is extensive. The scarring needs to be thoroughly and consistently revised.

But the damage is always reparable.

Maybe it is a good idea to think about killing our inner cynic, before it kills us.

We have no right, no possible justification for doing violence in the outside world. But our inner cynic is, ultimately, a figment of the brainwashing we have experienced in an abusive relationship. Its ‘truths’ are harmful nonsense that we have yet to disprove.

For as long as we swallow the guff that our inner cynic constantly regurgitates, we deny ourselves the possibility of achieving great things. We deny ourselves the oxygen we need if we are to thrive - and why shouldn’t we thrive?

Now, I don’t know what those great things are where you are concerned. I’m guessing that you don’t either. Yet. What I do know, having seen it again and again in the women I work with, is that the seeds of great things lie in all of them. It is simply a matter of creating the conditions that will allow those seeds to germinate.

Your inner cynic who, let us not forget it, was installed by your greatest external detractor(s), is designed to create toxic conditions in which nothing can grow.

Abused women tend to fight to keep the seeds of hope and a better future alive. Yet, left to themselves, they most commonly fail to remove the inner cynic. So they struggle to keep the tender seedling alive in a toxic environment. This makes for an unduly difficult, thankless struggle.

So how do you kill the inner cynic and create a favourable environment, so that the great things you are capable of can come to fruition?

The short answer has to be that you starve it of the negativity it needs. You do this by changing your beliefs and focusing on the good in your life. (And, yes, I do habitually bang on about these things. But given that they are cheap, easy and incredibly effective, why would I not?)

Your inner cynic is an arrogant so-and-so, just like an abusive partner. They both have an answer for everything. (A wrong answer, as it happens, but they are not going to let a little thing like that trouble them.)

Both your inner cynic and your abusive partner have done such a good job of brainwashing you that you take their word as gospel. Which is a great shame, really, because they have a ‘worm’s eye’ view of the world.

Because abusers are mired in misery, they assume that that is all that the world has to offer. Ultimately, it is all that the world has to offer them. It is all that the world has to offer you, only for as long as you espouse their view.

My ex-husband was marvellously representative of that tendency. ‘Life’, he repeated endlessly (because abusive men will repeat their idiotic ‘sound-bites’ endlessly, will they not?) ‘is a b*tch, and then you die’.

As a general principle what you project is what you get. He scowled on life and, in return, all that he registered were life’s scowls back at him.

That was his choice, and it is a bad one. Don’t let it be yours also.

The fastest, easiest, most effective way of turning a bad situation around is to change your attitude to it.

Darwin Kingsley said: “You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could. There are no limitations in what you can do except the limitations of your own mind.”

Your inner cynic imposes the limitations on your mind and your potential. Why not start telling the miserable little devil that it is dead in the water, every time it rears its ugly little head?

What could you possibly have to lose?

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You know how you stopped believing in Father Christmas once you were told he didn’t exist?

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