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Are You an Emotionally Abused Woman Who Is SICK and TIRED of the Misery of an Abusive Relationship?
Are you READY
to start your emotional
abuse recovery NOW? |
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Are You an Emotionally Abused Woman Who Is SICK and TIRED of the Misery of an Abusive Relationship?
Are you READY
to start your emotional
abuse recovery NOW? |
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Are You In A Trance of Misery? I don’t know you, personally. I don’t know whether or not you have a faith that helps you get through the bad times. Still, what I do know, from my years and years working with abused women is what keeps women – what has kept you – in a trance of misery. But let’s start from the beginning: in an abusive relationship, your partner puts you into a trance of misery. How does that happen? It may well be that you were already predisposed to that trance of misery by your childhood. You may have grown up in a family that projected a (very) negative view of your place in the world. One way or another they gave you to understand that you were not worth much and could not expect much from life. At a deep level, you completely ‘swallowed’ that belief, of course. How could you not? Part of the ‘drama of being a child’ is that we are trained to believe that our elders ‘and betters’ know better. That was not necessarily the case. They probably had more experience and skills in dealing with the everyday practicalities of life. But they quite possibly knew very little, in terms of heart wisdom, having been brought up in their own trance of misery. How can I say that with such conviction never having met them? Because, as a general principle, we always teach others the best that we know – even if that best is, as my ex-husband so cheerily put it, that ‘life’s a b*tch, and then you die’. If people in your early life taught you to live in a trance of misery, it is because they lived in one also. Small wonder that you connected so powerfully with an abusive partner at a profound, unconscious, level! Of course, it wasn’t like that at the superficial level, at least at the start: this was the man who was going to make your life complete; you were going to make each other happy. Turbo-charged by your love and togetherness, the two of you were going to lift off and soar way above the hurt and misery of your individual pasts. And, no, in creating that image of the turbo-charge, I am not making light of those feelings. Those were exactly my feelings; not that I could ever have put them into words at the time. Still, all that unhappiness, I thought, would be the fuel that we would use to soar above the common herd. Naturally, it didn’t work. But why didn’t it work? Recently I came across this definition of happiness from Dr John A Schindler. Happiness is, he says, “A state of mind in which our thinking is pleasant a good share of the time.” Falling in love always has a share of exhilaration. The release of oxytocin (don’t we love that chemical?) has something to do with it. But still, how much of your thinking was ‘pleasant a good share of the time’? When I think back to my own thinking in the early days of my relationship with my abusive partner, I can see that oxytocin served to mask a lot of the old negativity. For a while, anyway. At bottom, however, the old preoccupation with hurts, injustice and a victim mind-set remained. Nothing fundamental had changed. All that had happened was that a veil of delightful chemicals had overlaid my ‘default setting’. For a short while, that veil of oxytocin also hid my abusive partner’s ‘default setting’ from my eyes. Neither us could have known it at the time, but we were actually doomed to experience the relationship fallout that ensued. The only factor that was not precisely predictable was the amount of time that it would take me - the amount of time it takes anyone - finally to walk away. Why was my relationship – why is any abusive relationship – predestined to end in misery and destruction? Perhaps Dr Maxwell Maltz (“The New Psycho-Cybernetics”) provides the most credible answer. He writes: “Human beings always act and feel and perform in accordance with what they imagine to be true about themselves and their environment.” You know exactly what your abusive partner imagined to be true about you; he told you often enough. And, as you entered more and more deeply into his negative trance (aka his ‘realistic’ view of you) you came to imagine that what he said was true. Hence you acted and felt and performed in accordance with it. In fact, it is for this reason that so many abused women tell me that, to their amazement, they ‘act and feel and perform’ in a way that is inconsistent with their skills, and resources and abilities. Abused women act and feel and perform in accordance with what an abusive partner tells them. They do not act in accordance with what they are capable of. Over the last 3 months I have been working through the teleclass format with a group of abused women. Over that period they have made a massive shift from being at their wits’ end, to feeling positive and empowered. What has changed? The external circumstances of their lives have begun to change, often quite radically; but only as a result of the internal shift they have made. The significant change they have made is this: they have changed what they believe to be true about themselves and their environment. They have discarded their abusive partners’ destructive criticisms and started to respect and value themselves. They have, in other words, awoken from their trance of misery. When will you be ready to wake up from your trance of misery?
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You don’t need me to tell you how hard it is to get your head together when you’ve been in an abusive relationship. Like me, you've been there. You know. Like me, you know what time can and cannot do. You know, by now, that your demons, and his, are always there, waiting for you in the shadows.
Some days you feel motivated to keep going and other days you’d be happy to give up and settle for a single crumb of affection from him.
You can waste months and years going through the same old pattern of hope and despair; as if you hadn’t wasted enough time on him already.
That’s when telephone coaching can really help.
Imagine having someone at the other end of the phone who:
“That’s all well and good, but I can’t commit to any long, slow process, Annie.”
Coaching is quick and effective.
Coaching will stop you going round and round the same old loop and start thinking constructively so you can feel good about yourself and your life.
You know how you stopped believing in Father Christmas once you were told he didn’t exist?
Well, once you have been told who your abusive partner really is, you won’t be able to believe all the lies he told you any more. Which will leave you free to put the pieces of your life back together again.
So you can get your life back, only much, much better.
Because everybody has different learning styles, Annie offers 30 minute and 60 minute telephone consultations at reasonable rates.
Whether you have 1 consultation or several is entirely up to you, but expect coaching to make a big difference.
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“What will it cost me, Annie?”
"I could easily have charged $300 for an hour of my time. I usually do. But I wanted to make this service accessible to as many women as possible. So, for now, I'm charging the rock bottom price of just $50 for a 30 minute coaching consultation, or $100 for a full 60 minutes."
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How much is that when you focus on the weeks and months by which it will shorten your learning curve get rid of the pain and the obsession about an abusive partner and jump start your enjoyment of life?
If you don't take action now, your life won't change. But if you do, just 2 or 3 months from now, you can be that woman saying: "It's amazing. I've come so far and I feel so much better."
Your recovery can be fast, easy and joyful.
Is that something that you want for yourself?
Because if it is, I'm really looking forward to working with you.
So book your first consultation NOW!
The more you value yourself, the more
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"quick fix". What it is, is a structured programme that will guide
you back to your
inner joy, your gifts and a strong sense of your unique worth.
It's not a "quick fix", but most women start to feel stronger and
more positive within weeks.
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