Emotional Abuse Recovery NOW

The faith you carry deep within

This morning I awoke in a ‘dark place of the soul’. As an abuse survivor, my dark places of the soul are often very dark indeed. This week there has been a ‘blast from the past’ calculated to cause huge distress, a blast crafted meticulously over a period of years with a view to mortally wounding me…

Even as I write this, I can almost sense the profound empathy, tinged with curiosity, percolating through the ether, an almost involuntary wave of agreement from my readers that Life in the Abusive Kingdom is relentlessly tough.

And so it was for a good 50 minutes…

I could see exactly where I was headed… Straight into the abyss. You know the one. It’s like a circle of Dante’s Inferno, the one reserved for abused women. This circle is a vast, cold, barren space, filled with the sounds of wordless laments. Through the darkness you –I - can dimly make out other eyes, other mouths, but you feel totally and utterly alone…

Desperate times call for desperate measure. Maybe - I choose to believe -thanks to the angels that watch over me, I bought Dave Pelzer’s book “Moving Forward”, just before this storm broke.

Now you simply cannot quibble with Dave Pelzer; if he can rise above his horrendous early life, there are no excuses for anyone. Certainly, there are no excuses for me. A few pages in, I came across these words:

“Never forget your esteem is what makes you who you are. For you have been and always will be the total sum of the faith that you carry deep within!”

Quite!

Who was I for those 50 minutes?

I was that nasty, pathetic excuse for a woman that my abusive partner had told me I was. I was the quivering personification of his faith that I would never be/do/have anything, the embodiment of his loathing of women in general and me in particular. I was, in short, his construct, the sorry creature he created, and berated, in order to feel halfway good about himself.

Sound familiar?

His lack of esteem made me who I was… More correctly, I allowed his lack of esteem to debase me so that I became his vision of me.

And here I was again at the same old crossroads…

Except that this time, I choose to take a different direction.

The reality of my life is no different to the way it was during those 50 minutes. There are upsides and downsides; it is only my assessment of the value of that life that counts. For 50 minutes it was almost terminally bleak.

And that is not how I choose to live my life now.

Elsewhere, Pelzer writes:

“Many of those who have realized great accomplishments and awe-inspiring achievements began with the bare, hair-thin-thread belief that maybe, just maybe, things might get better.”

Everyone of us has those hair-thin-thread beliefs. Sure, an abuser will do what he can to rubbish them; but try as he may, he cannot ever sever them. Those hair-thin-threads cannot be cut.

Thank you, Dave, for reminding me of those hair-thin-thread beliefs! Thin they may be, but they are strong enough to carry your weight if you will only let them, for as long as you let them. The one thing you have to do is trust them when you can, as much as you can.

Only you know what your hair-thin-thread belief is. Your abusive partner may have ridiculed it, you may have overlooked it for the longest time, and it is still there. It is part of your God given programming, hardwired into your being.

However desperate your circumstances may look, that hair-thin-thread belief remains. If it worked for Dave Pelzer, how could it not work for you?

NOW 1-2-1 Telephone Coaching With Annie

“My counsellor has been telling me for months that I don’t listen to her. But when you say something, Annie, I hear it.” Mimi P.

You don’t need me to tell you how hard it is to get your head together when you’ve been in an abusive relationship. Like me, you've been there. You know. Like me, you know what time can and cannot do. You know, by now, that your demons, and his, are always there, waiting for you in the shadows.

Some days you feel motivated to keep going and other days you’d be happy to give up and settle for a single crumb of affection from him.

You can waste months and years going through the same old pattern of hope and despair; as if you hadn’t wasted enough time on him already.

That’s when telephone coaching can really help.

Imagine having someone at the other end of the phone who:

understands exactly what you are going through
is totally focused on your recovery
has successfully helped hundreds of women in your situation
believes totally in your ability to move on
knows from experience that, given the right support, it will be way easier than you think to heal your life
really cares about your present pain and future happiness

“That’s all well and good, but I can’t commit to any long, slow process, Annie.”

Coaching is quick and effective.

Coaching will stop you going round and round the same old loop and start thinking constructively so you can feel good about yourself and your life.

You know how you stopped believing in Father Christmas once you were told he didn’t exist?

Well, once you have been told who your abusive partner really is, you won’t be able to believe all the lies he told you any more. Which will leave you free to put the pieces of your life back together again.

So you can get your life back, only much, much better.

Because everybody has different learning styles, Annie offers 30 minute and 60 minute telephone consultations at reasonable rates.

Whether you have 1 consultation or several is entirely up to you, but expect coaching to make a big difference.

Secure your first consultation NOW.

Get the support you need to change your life NOW.

“What will it cost me, Annie?”

"I could easily have charged $300 for an hour of my time. I usually do. But I wanted to make this service accessible to as many women as possible. So, for now, I'm charging the rock bottom price of just $50 for a 30 minute coaching consultation, or $100 for a full 60 minutes."

CLICK HERE to book a 30 minute coaching consultation.

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How much is that when you focus on the weeks and months by which it will shorten your learning curve get rid of the pain and the obsession about an abusive partner and jump start your enjoyment of life?

If you don't take action now, your life won't change. But if you do, just 2 or 3 months from now, you can be that woman saying: "It's amazing. I've come so far and I feel so much better."

Your recovery can be fast, easy and joyful.

Is that something that you want for yourself?

Because if it is, I'm really looking forward to working with you.

So book your first consultation NOW!

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"This is the most valuable recovery tool I have used. I am beginning to believe recovery is possible. Thanks." KAF

When I finally ended my marriage, the question that obsessed me was: “How do I heal from this?” After 20+ years in an abusive marriage, I'd had it with struggling with despair, sorrow, anger and pain. I wanted a life worth living.

I wanted to be emotionally whole and healthy. But I didn’t know where to start. So I did everything I could. I tried psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, group counselling. I read about abuse and talked about abuse. It all helped and I’m grateful to everyone and everything that helped move me along.

The knowledge I acquired was valuable, no doubt about it. But the one thing that enabled me to make the shift out of that dark world of fear and desperation was learning to believe in me again. The more I started to value and respect myself, the easier it became to move on.

Learning how you can rebuild your confidence and faith in yourself is the most healing journey you can possibly take. Your world starts to change the moment the moment your feelings about yourself start to change.

The more you value yourself, the more others will value you. My ebook will show you how to do that.

Everything I know about how to make that journey into healing and happiness has gone into my ebook “The Woman You Want To Be”.

It’s not a “quick fix”. When you are at rock bottom, there is no such thing as a "quick fix". What it is, is a structured programme that will guide you back to your inner joy, your gifts and a strong sense of your unique worth. It's not a "quick fix", but most women start to feel stronger and more positive within weeks.

Over the course of nearly a year, “The Woman You Want To Be” will guide you out of your limiting, negative thinking and into a new perspective on yourself and your world. You'll learn how you can access your strengths, your trust in yourself and your joy so that you won't have to live any more amid the rubble of broken dreams. Instead you can build the world for yourself in which you can enjoy happiness, true connection with others and thesuccess you want for yourself.

This 10 step workbook is a vital resource for women who want to discover their true potential in all areas of their life. It will teach you how you can believe in and value yourself as never before.

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