“How Do I
Move On From
An Abusive Relationship?”
healing from an abusive relationship
delivered to YOU, down the phone
Thousands of women have
contacted me over the years to ask: “How do I get over the trauma
of an abusive relationship and move on?”
These women really want to put the
misery of an abusive relationship behind them. But they don’t know
how. They’ve been through agony and now they want to get on with
their lives they’re ready to live a rewarding life and
create a happy, fulfilling future for themselves. They write
from all over the world.
Some are young, some are not, some
have been in their relationship for months, most have been there
for years, even decades. Some have children, some don’t. The
difficulty they share, the question they ask is:
“How can I get
the abuse I’ve suffered
out of my head,
once and for all?
Is it possible ever
overcome all the hurt I've been through?”
They ask: "How can I start to live my
life, without my abuser’s words constantly echoing in my head?"
Abused women ask the same
questions whether they live in the US or the UK, India or
Ireland, Australia or Africa.
Why is that?
are all the same. In fact, they are all the same the world over.
Hence they say the same things, they inflict the same damage,
and the 10 steps to healing, remain the same, the world over.
For years now, I’ve been running
10 Step Recovery Programs for abused women here in the UK.
They have been massively successful in helping women move
on further, and faster, than they would have believed possible.
Finally the penny dropped!
I said to myself: “You have to offer
your Accelerated 10 Step Emotional Abuse Recovery
Program in a teleclass format. When are you going to realize
that group coaching is fantastically effective delivered
over the phone? It may even be more effective than when
it is delivered face to face - because there are no excuses
for missing a session. (At the very worst, you always have the
recording to listen to.) When people work as a group, they
benefit from the power of the group: moving one person on,
moves everyone on.”
“You’ve been like a miracle in my life.”
What stops abused women from
Getting over the abuse and
Getting their life back?
years I’ve worked with abused women on their healing
journey, I’ve noticed that just two things keep abused
women stuck in a Trance of Misery created by their
believe his propaganda and think it’s all over for
don’t believe that they ever can heal. Or at least, not
in any foreseeable future.
It doesn’t have to be like that!
Starting June this year, I ran the first Accelerated 10
Step Emotional Abuse Recovery Teleclass. The results have
been fantastic. In just 10 weeks – and sometimes less –
the women on it have experienced massive
"I just wanted to drop you a line to
say that as I was speaking with you tonight about my
reluctance to cut this emotionally abusive guy out
of my life once and for all I realized that I can
choose happiness or choose things that will bring me
unhappiness. This guy brings me unhappiness and
I've just got to let go and start doing the things
that make me happy. It's as simple as that.
I choose Happiness.
Boy, you'd think it would be easier
for me to have reached this conclusion. But I guess
I had to hear myself talk about it to "get it".
Thanks for listening and more importantly your
feedback and not letting me off the hook.
just 10 weeks they have learned to:
Feel good about themselves
Let go of trying to make an abusive relationship
Trust that they can have a great future
Find much better ways to deal with the challenges
Recognise dangerous men
Put their own needs first
Feel happy in the moment
And much, much more.
Accelerated 10 step Emotional Abuse Recovery Program
Over the 10 week course, you will
receive the answers you need to the questions that, until
now, have kept you stuck in ‘victim mode’ including:
“Why does he treat me this way?”
“Will he ever change?”
“What are the chances of transforming this relationship?”
“How do I get my self-esteem back?”
“Is it my fault?”
“How do I start to rebuild my life?”
do I stop myself going back to him?”
“Can I be sure it won’t happen again?”
What really stops abused women from moving
It’s NOT what you think!
Abused women constantly tell me why
they can’t move on. Some of the things they say are:
still love him”
“I can’t manage without him”
“I’m not strong enough”
“He’s like an addiction for me”
never find anyone as good again.”
None of the above are the real
reason. The real reason why women stay stuck in the trauma
of an abusive relationship is they don’t know how to move on.
Nobody enjoys misery. Abused women
only stick with the misery because nobody has shown them the
quick, effective way to leave the misery behind.
Give them the tools and the
insights to heal and everything changes. FAST.
“How do you do that, Annie?”
Abused women suffer with
relationship tunnel vision. (I should know, I was once one of
the worst sufferers.) Once you start to look outside the
tunnel, you start to see your life; that is,
the life you can have.
“What do you mean, Annie?”
Nobody chooses a miserable
life, or stays with it, because they want to. They stay with it
because it is all they can see. Once their eyes are opened to
life beyond the relationship tunnel, the can start to go
straight for it. So their healing happens much, much faster
than they could possibly have imagined.
But you can’t know that, yet. So
let me tell me just some of the things you will learn:
In this Accelerated 10
Step Emotional Abuse Recovery Program you will find out all
you will ever need to know about:
The circle of Violence
and the Circle of Healing.
The main reason women stay in an abusive relationship is because
they don’t understand what is going on. Once they see that all
they will ever be hamsters on a treadmill of abuse that is
NOT going to change, EVER; letting go becomes
much, much easier.
2) Your relationship blueprint.
Bad relationships don’t just happen to us. Sure, we don’t deserve
them, but abused women are vulnerable to bad relationships,
because of their relationship blueprint. Understanding yours is
the first step towards changing it.
3) How to step out of victim
thinking and into personal responsibility. Abusers control,
they leave their victims feeling powerless. Ownership of your
compliance in the situation, your acceptance of his power to dish
out whatever he likes, will restore your power to
make different choices and hold different beliefs about yourself.
4) Laying down boundaries.
Abused women have no boundaries, not so? They believe that they
have to do everything for a partner. In return their
partner will exploit them every which way. Creating boundaries is
the only safeguard against allowing more abuse into your
change. This may be the most important
module in the entire course. You will learn simple tools that you
can use whenever you need them to protect yourself from falling
back into old destructive patterns.
lasting self-worth. Low self-worth
probably took you into the relationship. Staying in the
relationship destroyed what self-worth you had, and zero
self-worth makes it hard to move on. You will discover how to
break free from the negative brainwashing of an abusive partner
and start believing in yourself.
Letting go of your
abusive relationship. Given what you have been through, you’d
think it would be easy to let go. In reality, the exact opposite
is true. You will learn why women hold on and how you can
finally let go.
with the woman you once were. I’ve
never spoken to an abusive woman who doesn’t remember a time when
she felt strong and in charge of her life. You will learn
the best possible way to reconnect with that
ask for what you want and need. In your
abusive relationship you learn to settle for crumbs; crumbs of
love from your partner and crumbs of life for yourself. You will
learn how to feel safe asking for what you need from other people,
as well as how you can ask more of yourself and get it.
relationship you want. There is an
unspoken rule in relationships: you get what really believe you
deserve in your heart of hearts. (That’s how so many of us got
into abusive relationships in the first place.) Before you
can enjoy a good relationship, you need to be able to:
visualize that relationship
very clear about what you truly want.
You will discover how to know
exactly what you want so you can do this for yourself.
to sign up now.
“Is that all, Annie?
Or is there more?”
Actually, there is more. There will
also be the opportunity to ask your burning question and
get it answered. There will be a Question and Answer session
on every call, so you can voice your most pressing concerns.
“So, where’s the catch, Annie?
What is this going to cost me?”
I want to make sure these
teleclasses are as affordable as possible, because I remember
how I felt all those years ago when I was starting out on my abuse
recovery journey, like you are now. I was terrified that I would
waste money I didn’t have and be no better off at the end of it.
I couldn’t begin to imagine that I would ever feel good again. I
felt unsupported, and under attack. There was nobody to say to me:
“The investment you make in your
recovery, will be the best investment you ever make.”
I could not know, then, I certainly
could not believe then, how fast I would begin to feel better,
once I discovered the very best recovery tools and techniques
that I now teach.
For me, and for so many women that I
work with, recovery means massive improvement in your quality
of life. It means that you:
Learn to love yourself
Become a changed, positive person
Feel in charge of your life
Become confident about building better
Feel good about yourself and other people
Rebuild your self-worth
See your life open up, often in directions you would never have
But don’t take my word for
it! Read what some other women have
said about my teleclasses:
you so much for the wonderful teleclass. Your material is
so important and it affects everyone. I recently went
through a divorce and this is really going to help me to
move forward.” Joan S.
You hit the nail on the
head almost every time for what I'm feeling. Thank you so
much! Kirsten B.
“The teleclass was wonderful, and I
appreciate what you do very much.” Karen H.
teleclasses were riveting. I’d really like to listen to
them again.” Valerie J.
felt that my life had no direction. I now feel that I am in
charge of my own future. I am a changed woman.”
really depressed; lost lonely, as my situation couldn’t get
any worse. Now I feel more positive about my future.”
“ I was
feeling very, very bad. Now I feel better. I don’t feel
afraid. I’m different now..”Rose
started working with you, I felt I had extremely low
self-esteem. I felt stuck in a rut and that nobody really
cared about me except the kids. I now feel positive about
my future “whatever” that may be. I am starting to move
into a much brighter and happier world and I’m really
starting to like myself…. I have found the way you have
managed to get the right stuff into my head amazing and
enlightening.’ Kelly Darlin
always been in my heart to send you an email to let you know
that the course has made me a brand new person I've always
wanted to be, "ME" Thandi. Thank you for helping me
rediscover myself. One of the things I have learned in the
course was to give credit where is earned, so there you have
it.” Thandi M
this course a real godsend.” Anna
start of this course, I didn’t know how I could manage
without my abusive partner. 6 weeks on, I have so much more
confidence. I now have a good job and faith in the future.
I don’t believe that would have happened without this
course.” Susan S.
or less given up hope. I felt I had been through too much
and was too old to start over. That’s changed completely.
I feel more positive about the future than I ever have in my
life before. “ Angela H.
was one of the best classes I ever heard. You single
handedly absolved me of my guilt that my relationship did
not work out; you said: "it takes two people". All I ever
heard before was, if you change your thoughts you can change
the other person and you said, no they have to be committed
to the relationship too.
So thank you so much for
that, you certainly made a difference in a lot of people's
lives tonight!” Alexis W
HERE to sign up now!
“OK, Annie, it sounds good.
But tell me:
Where? When? How?
You will simply have to call a US
phone number, or Bridge Line to hear the call, at normal rates.
(Just the same as if you were calling
On Monday evenings, at 6pm
ET, starting Monday Nov 2nd.
There will be no class on
There will be a BONUS Q & A
session on December 28th.
Teleclasses will resume as normal on
Jan 4th 2010
You will call in to the number you
will be given to listen to the call. You will have the
opportunity to ask your question during the call.
There will be written materials that
you will be able to access from a webpage, and you will be able to
contact me via email.
My normal rate for Abuse Recovery
Coaching, which is already heavily discounted is $100 per
hour. I’m happy to offer this whole 10 week course to you for
just $100. That means you get 10 hours of the
best I have to offer, including the opportunity to ask me your
questions, for less than the normal cost of 1 hr’s coaching. At
just $10 per hour, it’s a complete steal. (Here in the UK
$10 barely covers the cost of a couple of magazines, or two caffelattes.)
You will get to benefit from everything I can teach
you, as well as sharing thoughts, feelings and wisdom with the
other women in the group.
You will discover that you’re not
alone, and talking with other women who have had similar
experiences will help you overcome the guilt and shame
and self-blame that has kept you stuck.
if I have to miss a call or two?”
Just suppose you
can’t listen to a call at the scheduled time. It will be recorded
and you will be able to listen to it at any time that works for
you. (Sure, you won’t be able to speak, but
you will still gain massive benefits from what you hear.)
The whole teleclass will be recorded and uploaded to my website,
so you will be able to listen to it at your convenience.
what if it doesn't work for me? What if there is no hope for
Did you know that's the biggest
worry of every abused woman? (Don't worry, that was my
biggest worry, too.)
Here's the deal: I'm completely and
utterly convinced that if you stick with the program, it WILL
work for you. But let's play worst case scenarios: you
attend the teleclasses (or download them later) and nothing
changes. In that case, I'm happy to refund your money: if I
can't help you, there's no way I would want to keep it.
bonus, I’m throwing in a FREE copy of my
ebook “How To Say ‘No’ And Still Feel Good About Yourself”,
that normally sells for $37.
I’ll also throw
in a copy of “The Relationship Workbook” (value $27.00),
which is a great tool for changing the way you look at
That’s 10 hours
of my time, plus bonus materials for just $100.
there any other costs involved?
long distances charges by each caller's carrier apply.
Now you know the cost but
Do you have any idea of
how much this teleprogram could be worth to you?
What's it worth to you to put your abusive
relationship behind you and rebuild your life?
to sign up today.
You will be taken to a secure payment page, and from there to
a page with all the details you will need to access the calls.
you do nothing, nothing will change. But if you just start
applying what you will learn over the 10 weeks in this teleclass,
you too will be a changed woman, feeling happy and positive and
looking forward to a better future.
forward to working with you to help you
create the future you want for yourself. I look forward to
sharing a laugh with you and listening to you sharing your wins
Do you want 2010 to be the
year you get your life back on track? If so this could be
Will you take it?
to sign up for your Accelerated Healing Journey.