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My name is Annie Kaszina and I spent over
twenty years in an abusive marriage, before I learned how I could become
the woman I want to be. Now I work with women who have been in
controlling and abusive relationships, to facilitate their journey into
joy and self-realisation. "All of the things that I have read that you've offered have been miraculously good for me. I read what you write and I feel myself identifying, relating, and even beginning to heal after a verbally abusive marriage of 18 years. I'm happy to discover that I'm not dirt after all. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. And bless you, bless you, bless you!" Marianne K
1. How
Women Become Fools Over Men 1. How To Maximise Your Chances Of Creating A Great Relationship Next Time
Some people are instinctively better at
relationships than others. It may be something that they learned from
watching how their own parents relate. It may have come about as a
result of having a strong sense of self-worth instilled in them by
parents and a loving, supportive circle.
If your past relationships ended in disappointment, hurt and disillusionment, maybe picking good potential partners is not one of your natural gifts. But it is something you can learn. So how do you do it? · Take new relationships SLOWLY. In the early days of a relationship it’s easy to forget to ask for information. Don’t play ‘join up the dots’. Find out all you can about the wonderful new person in your life. Don’t assume that if he/she says or does X then that means Y and Z. Guessing is not a successful way of evaluating a potential life partner. · Beware of rushing into a relationship in which you need to look after, or rescue someone through their difficulties. Your giving is more likely to be expected than it is to be valued or reciprocated. · Be sure you have similar values about money, work, fidelity, monogamy, personal hygiene, friendship and child-rearing. Otherwise the relationship will probably founder further down the line. · Be very aware of every little ‘incident’ where a new partner behaves in a way that you don’t quite like, or you find upsetting. You may start to a see a pattern. Sulkers, control freaks and people who love the sound of their own voice make very bad long-term partners. · Listen carefully to what he/she says about previous partners. One day they will probably say the same negative things about you that they say about previous partners. · Notice how well they manage anger - unless you want to live with an angry person. · If they have children by a previous relationship, find out how well they get on with your prospective partner. If they don’t, like there’s probably a good reason – and it may not be just because their partner was ‘unreasonable’ or worse. · If they have any addictions, to drugs, drink, gambling, or sex, run very fast, in the opposite direction or you will end up playing second fiddle to an addiction. Whether or not they beat their addiction one day, you will suffer enormously. · If there is a past history of violent behaviour, assume that you too will end up as punch bag. Your love is not enough to change another person’s bad behaviour. · Don’t neglect your circle of friends and well-wishers. Never put all your emotional eggs in one basket. · Start as you mean to go on. Don’t be one of those perfect lovers with a short shelf-life, who turn into back into frogs. Your partner may take a while to realise what has happened, but realise they will and you will have set them up for that disenchantment. If you are honest from the start, they are more likely to love you warts and all. · Love yourself first. When you are
happy with yourself and not needy, creating good relationships becomes
a given.
3.
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The more you value yourself, the more
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It’s not a “quick
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It's not a "quick fix", but most women start to feel stronger and
more positive within weeks. About the
Author Annie Kaszina is a specialist
Empowerment Coach who can work with you through "The Woman You Want To
Be" programme, workshops and one to one coaching. You'll learn to root
out self-limiting beliefs, tap into your inner joy and attract the
relationships you want. Let me know what you think - about
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