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Are You an Emotionally Abused Woman Who Is SICK and TIRED of the Misery of an Abusive Relationship?
Are you READY
to start your emotional
abuse recovery NOW? |
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| Emotional Abuse Recovery NOW |
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Are You an Emotionally Abused Woman Who Is SICK and TIRED of the Misery of an Abusive Relationship?
Are you READY
to start your emotional
abuse recovery NOW? |
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1. “Your future is not in the past” This weekend I was talking to someone about his past difficulties and future vision. In the midst of a torrent of words, for this is someone who never uses 10 words when 100 might make the idea marginally clearer, he said: “My future is not in the past”. I heard nothing of what he said over the next few minutes. Eventually I roused myself from my reverie to ask him if I could quote him on that. “What?” he asked. “What you said”, I replied. “My future is not in the past.” He had no idea of the power of what he had said. Think about it for a moment. The abused mind-set is the state in which your past is always in your future, the state in which you can see no future because all you see is more of that past ahead of you. Or at least, as life starts to move on, in the eye of your mind you constantly see those old scenarios ahead of you. You expect those old scenarios to be revisited on you. An abusive relationship teaches you to fear the bad in others and to mistrust yourself. There are, of course, good reasons for that. Naïve trust in others would be far too dangerous. Having done that once, or more, and paid a heavy price, you cannot afford to do so again. Living without trust is incredibly hard work. When you trust neither yourself nor others, everything has to be run through your head, past your critical faculties – and, probably, past friends, family and supporters also. It’s a slow, difficult process. It is only recently that I have realized that trust begins with you. Trust is about learning to have faith in your own intuition, resources and underlying health. There was always a moment when something warned you off a person, or situation that would prove dangerous for you. We disregard it at our peril. Recently I was working with a woman who chose to confuse her heart with her intuition. Her heart told her to return, yet again, to a man who consistently escalated his ill treatment of her. (Her intuition had told her, at the start, not to touch that man with a bargepole.) Her argument was that it would have been insane to ignore the promptings of her heart. Mine was that it was actually the promptings of her needy, hungry mind she was listening to. It was her fear of never having anything even half-way good again that led her to try over and over to transform a fatally flawed relationship into the healthy, nurturing one it could never be. (You have to think in terms of a reworking of the old joke: if – even some of the time - it looks like a bad relationship, sounds like a bad relationship, feels like a bad relationship, smells like a relationship and tastes like a bad relationship, then you had better believe that is exactly what it is. It’s a bad relationship with a few, short-term ‘good’ twists.) Why was my client so unwilling to let go of this man that she would compromise herself and her children? Because she saw her past in the future. All she could see was her old bad relationships playing out again and again in her future. Because she was ‘old’. Because she wasn’t pretty enough. Because… Because she had no trust in herself and her ability to create a future for herself. Despite all evidence to the contratry. Despite being a high achiever. What difference would it have made to her if she had been able to say to herself: “My future is not in the past”? What difference will saying that make to you? And by ‘saying that’, I mean saying it as often as necessary until you start to internalize it? It is only when you are in an abusive relationship that your life is behind you. In part that is because you looking to recreate something (good) that you thought you once had, however briefly. (Trying to resurrect what is dead and buried is, after all, an unending, thankless task.) In part it is because your abusive partner’s intention is to pin you through the heart to the relationship, like a butterfly to a mounting board. Either way, you have stopped living your life and visualizing your own future. Neither has abandoned you. For a while you parted company with them. As long as life persists your life and your future are waiting for you to claim ownership once again. When better to do so than right now? Your future is not in the past. In your future lie many, many more joys and satisfactions than an abusive past could ever hold.
Only trust. NOW 1-2-1 Telephone Coaching With Annie
You don’t need me to tell you how hard it is to get your head together when you’ve been in an abusive relationship. Like me, you've been there. You know. Like me, you know what time can and cannot do. You know, by now, that your demons, and his, are always there, waiting for you in the shadows.
Some days you feel motivated to keep going and other days you’d be happy to give up and settle for a single crumb of affection from him.
You can waste months and years going through the same old pattern of hope and despair; as if you hadn’t wasted enough time on him already.
That’s when telephone coaching can really help.
Imagine having someone at the other end of the phone who:
“That’s all well and good, but I can’t commit to any long, slow process, Annie.”
Coaching is quick and effective.
Coaching will stop you going round and round the same old loop and start thinking constructively so you can feel good about yourself and your life.
You know how you stopped believing in Father Christmas once you were told he didn’t exist?
Well, once you have been told who your abusive partner really is, you won’t be able to believe all the lies he told you any more. Which will leave you free to put the pieces of your life back together again.
So you can get your life back, only much, much better.
Because everybody has different learning styles, Annie offers 30 minute and 60 minute telephone consultations at reasonable rates.
Whether you have 1 consultation or several is entirely up to you, but expect coaching to make a big difference.
Secure your first consultation NOW.
Get the support you need to change your life NOW.
“What will it cost me, Annie?”
"I could easily have charged $300 for an hour of my time. I usually do. But I wanted to make this service accessible to as many women as possible. So, for now, I'm charging the rock bottom price of just $50 for a 30 minute coaching consultation, or $100 for a full 60 minutes."
CLICK HERE to book a 30 minute coaching consultation.
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How much is that when you focus on the weeks and months by which it will shorten your learning curve get rid of the pain and the obsession about an abusive partner and jump start your enjoyment of life?
If you don't take action now, your life won't change. But if you do, just 2 or 3 months from now, you can be that woman saying: "It's amazing. I've come so far and I feel so much better."
Your recovery can be fast, easy and joyful.
Is that something that you want for yourself?
Because if it is, I'm really looking forward to working with you.
So book your first consultation NOW!
The more you value yourself, the more
others will value you. My ebook will show you how to do that.
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"quick fix". What it is, is a structured programme that will guide
you back to your
inner joy, your gifts and a strong sense of your unique worth.
It's not a "quick fix", but most women start to feel stronger and
more positive within weeks.
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