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“Continuous Improvement”

The thing that keeps abused women emotionally hooked into an abusive relationship long after they should have left is their partner’s potential.

Once upon a time he was loving, caring, romantic. (Well, really and truly he probably wasn’t. But he made enough of the right noises to convince you at the time.) He went to the trouble of ‘ticking boxes’ that mattered to you.

It’s so easy to deduce that, if he once did it, he can do it again; it’s just a question of getting him back ‘into the zone’ – presumably the loving relationship zone.

We react as if we were looking at a domestic pet that has begun breaking housetraining consistently; it’s just a question of reprogramming, isn’t it?

In reality, it is a whole lot harder to reprogram a partner for a number of reasons. Our pets are ultimately motivated to please us and live by our rules. Abusive men are not. (Ultimately, it is not within our power to reprogram another human being. Nor should it be.)

As a general principle, abused women are far more effective in insisting on good behaviour from pets and children, than they are from an abusive partner.

Certainly, it is more difficult to redress the balance of an existing relationship than it is to set it up in accordance with useful rules and boundaries.

And did you create many – any – useful rules and boundaries when you went into that abusive relationship?

For most women, including me, the only rule was: “whatever he says, goes, and I’ll either like it, put up with it, or complain about it ineffectually.”

So we limp through our abusive relationship, living by the “put up and shut up” rule (or more correctly, the “stay and get hurt” rule as Gary Chapman defines it in his book "Desperate Marriages") with our eyes fixed on the ever receding mirage of His Potential.

This week a good friend brought to my attention Mike Murdock’s book “The Law of Recognition”. It’s not a book that appeals to me at all. However, Chapter 6, “Recognition Of The Mate God Has Approved For You”, is powerful stuff. Murdock details 47 no-nos. No 9 is particularly telling:

“Think Twice If You Do Not See Continuous Improvement In The Relationship. Improvement is revealed by the decrease of conflict.”

“Think Twice” is, apparently, Murdock’s coded way of saying: “Run like crazy in the opposite direction, and keep running for as long as it takes to finally lose that partner.”

I have not spoken to one abused woman whose relationship showed continuous improvement.

Every abused woman I have ever spoken to suffered because her relationship showed continuous deterioration.

And still she continued to believe and invest in it.

But then, she didn’t know about the Rule of Continuous Improvement.

Can a relationship be capable of continuous improvement? I believe it can, if it is a healthy relationship and if the partners in it choose to believe that it can.

Can you have healthy relationships?

Can you have angels watching over you?

Don’t you owe it to yourself to start believing that you can?

If you believed that your life and your relationships were capable of continuous improvement, what difference would that make? Take a few minutes out to write down your thoughts.

So what is there to stop you choosing beliefs that will sustain you?

NOW 1-2-1 Telephone Coaching With Annie

“My counsellor has been telling me for months that I don’t listen to her. But when you say something, Annie, I hear it.” Mimi P.

You don’t need me to tell you how hard it is to get your head together when you’ve been in an abusive relationship. Like me, you've been there. You know. Like me, you know what time can and cannot do. You know, by now, that your demons, and his, are always there, waiting for you in the shadows.

Some days you feel motivated to keep going and other days you’d be happy to give up and settle for a single crumb of affection from him.

You can waste months and years going through the same old pattern of hope and despair; as if you hadn’t wasted enough time on him already.

That’s when telephone coaching can really help.

Imagine having someone at the other end of the phone who:

understands exactly what you are going through
is totally focused on your recovery
has successfully helped hundreds of women in your situation
believes totally in your ability to move on
knows from experience that, given the right support, it will be way easier than you think to heal your life
really cares about your present pain and future happiness

“That’s all well and good, but I can’t commit to any long, slow process, Annie.”

Coaching is quick and effective.

Coaching will stop you going round and round the same old loop and start thinking constructively so you can feel good about yourself and your life.

You know how you stopped believing in Father Christmas once you were told he didn’t exist?

Well, once you have been told who your abusive partner really is, you won’t be able to believe all the lies he told you any more. Which will leave you free to put the pieces of your life back together again.

So you can get your life back, only much, much better.

Because everybody has different learning styles, Annie offers 30 minute and 60 minute telephone consultations at reasonable rates.

Whether you have 1 consultation or several is entirely up to you, but expect coaching to make a big difference.

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“What will it cost me, Annie?”

"I could easily have charged $300 for an hour of my time. I usually do. But I wanted to make this service accessible to as many women as possible. So, for now, I'm charging the rock bottom price of just $50 for a 30 minute coaching consultation, or $100 for a full 60 minutes."

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How much is that when you focus on the weeks and months by which it will shorten your learning curve get rid of the pain and the obsession about an abusive partner and jump start your enjoyment of life?

If you don't take action now, your life won't change. But if you do, just 2 or 3 months from now, you can be that woman saying: "It's amazing. I've come so far and I feel so much better."

Your recovery can be fast, easy and joyful.

Is that something that you want for yourself?

Because if it is, I'm really looking forward to working with you.

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When I finally ended my marriage, the question that obsessed me was: “How do I heal from this?” After 20+ years in an abusive marriage, I'd had it with struggling with despair, sorrow, anger and pain. I wanted a life worth living.

I wanted to be emotionally whole and healthy. But I didn’t know where to start. So I did everything I could. I tried psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, group counselling. I read about abuse and talked about abuse. It all helped and I’m grateful to everyone and everything that helped move me along.

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